looking mainly for female, I feel more comfortable with another female, with their soft skin soft hair shapely hips. A male would have to be more on the feminine side and what I mean is no muscles, hate muscles clean shaven face no harsh facial hair as i actually get a severe rash around the mouth and chin area. female can be any type, males need to be light colored and not much body hair ( chest and legs, definately hairless back).Think im too fussy lol